For my scalp I use either Blue Magic's Indian Hemp or Coconut Oil hair grease/conditioners
For my hair I use Black n' Sassy Lavender Oil...I like it MUCH better than Luster's Pink Lotion:
If things start getting really bad and my hair starts breaking or thinning out I use Bronner Bros. Pine Tar. It stinks like hell but works.
WARNING: Only use this product at night, use a pillow case you don't care about and a scarf you don't care about. In the morning use a moisturizer that smells good but is light so your hair isn't super oily.
In the winter time I grease my scalp every 3 days and wash my hair every 3 - 4 weeks. I put a scarf on my hair every time I go outside (underneath my hat). I haven't quite found the perfect protective hairstyle for my lil busy self but when I do I will let you bloggers know!!!